The word “beauty” is subjective and while societal standards may define beauty from physical appearance, what makes a woman beautiful lies beyond the exterior.
A beautiful woman is confident, she stares right back at the mirror without judgements or comparison with friends or colleagues.
It’s no secret that in the past, ladies were trained to be pretty in order to attract the most eligible bachelor.
Every woman saw her fellow lady as a competition for the attention she got from male counterparts, the prettier you were, the uglier and bitter stares you receive.
However, the big question is, has this changed? Are the 21st century women still competing for the best man in the room?
With the rise in cosmetic procedures and full coverage makeup are ladies completely sold to the idea that a pretty face or body is what makes a woman beautiful?
Is the standard of beauty so high that you have to spend dollars, stay hungry, hate on your fellow queens just to achieve it?
The science of being attractive: what makes a woman beautiful scientifically
Is beauty an art or science? A figment of our imagination or an honest perception?
Quite often people disagree about who’s beautiful and who isn’t but what the standard of their decision? What counts as been beautiful and what doesn’t.
In Greek, a mathematical equation first spoken about by Euclid has become quite the standard for quantifying beauty scientifically.
According to the Center for surgery, this mathematical principle known as “the golden ratio” serves as the guideline for achieving facial symmetry and balance.
They stated that this is not an inflexible rule however, it offers a framework that’s crucial in determining the overall facial harmony in cosmetic procedures.
You are probably wondering what has mathematics got to do with beauty?
If you ever visit a cosmetic surgeon, you will understand the relevance of measurements, facial symmetry and other calculations the surgeons have to perfect to get the right dimensions for a face lift.
However, it seems like science is limiting beauty to facial appearance.
With the emergence of the Kardashians, ladies’ desires shifted from a perfect face to a perfect body but it doesn’t seem to be recognized as the emerging standard for beauty.
Is science wrong for determining beauty standards by facial attractiveness? If not face what other factor can be generally accepted as the standard of beauty in our present world.
The beauty bias
When you call someone beautiful what are you referring to? Their face, right? A lady with a beauty body may be called “hot, curvy’ sexy” but beautiful seems to be reserved for a perfect looking face.
Is this wrong?
Facial beauty is no doubt the biggest beauty radar in our society but this doesn’t mean what you think when you look in the mirror is always right.
In (find the year) dove did a commercial where ladies were asked to describe themselves for an artist to draw them, on another canvas the artist was asked to draw what they saw without the lady’s description. The end of this campaign shown that most women brutally criticized their looks but what the artist painted was much beautiful than what they see.
A touching but equally shocking realization.
What if what you think about yourself is wrong? What if you can’t truly see what you look like because it’s clouded by “what you think you should look like” based on what celebrity magazines and social media defines as beauty.
What makes a woman beautiful is how she sees herself, how she accepts and owns her reality, change what she considers a fixable flaw and accept what she can’t change.
What makes a woman beautiful according to a Man
Of course, you know the popular statement “men are physical” which is not 100% wrong however, does being attracted to someone or in this case something seductive align with the concept of being beautiful? It doesn’t!
It’s just like a lady who dislikes the colour pink but having to buy and wear one for a wedding because it’s the colour of the day and she’s a bridesmaid.
It doesn’t mean pink is her favourite colour even when it looks good on her.
With the concept of beauty, what makes a lady beautiful to a man is based on his perceptions, values and principles.
While some men prefer a stunning woman, with the perfect body and height, others want to look beyond the physical especially when they choose a life partner. They want someone they can trust, a lady who can care for him and their kids, a woman that knows her worth and treats herself with utmost respect.
There’s no definite answer to the question “what makes a woman beautiful to a man”? every man has a preference and when he finds what he wants or need, she becomes the most beautiful woman to him.
P.s My dear beautiful lady, don’t be so focused on the standard of beauty to men instead focus on you, find your true self, pursue your dreams and the man that finds you beautiful will find you.
What’s the difference between being beautiful and just pretty?
This sounds more like a self-esteem challenge than a random question of beautiful vs pretty.
As a confident woman, if you keep receiving the “you are pretty” compliment it wouldn’t bother you, it’s just a reenactment of a known fact.
However, if you already struggle with self-doubt and work twice as hard to appear beautiful according to the world’s perception, you will overthink every compliment.
- “Why does she get beautiful and all I get it pretty?
- Is she more beautiful than me?
- She’s not even that beautiful…
- Her lipstick is cheap…
- She definitely got surgery that’s not natural”.
You are comparing yourself with someone you obviously consider a competition and that’s not necessary.
In this world the best person that can love you is “you”, don’t talk down on yourself or someone else.
If you’re struggling with self-worth and low self-esteem, turn your attention from others and focus on you. Read self-help book like the laws of imperfection by Brene Brown, you are stronger than you think by Joel Osteen and other great books from inspirational authors.
If you can’t handle this alone, it’s time to invest in therapy.
Note: the biggest sign of low self-esteem is self-denial, you know the trust but keep trying to explain everything till it sounds right.
Takeaway
What makes a woman beautiful inside and outside is unique for every lady. However, there are general practices you can incorporate to your daily routines to increase both internal and external beauty.
Invest a good skin care routine, eat right and add a form of physical exercise to boost your external outlook and improve your health as well.
For internal beauty you need to work on your confidence, and composure. A beauty woman radiates love, peace and optimism, she has flaws, isn’t afraid to own up to her mistakes, loves herself and she’s not threatened by her fellow ladies’ success.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! you are the beholder! What do you see?
