What frequents your list of things to talk about? Why are you always talking about it?
In a conversation, everyone has their point of view, how they understand a situation, that’s why most times we never join an issue till we hear from both parties.
In our society, two or more people can have the same belief but their approach to it might be different.
We are different humans from distinct backgrounds with variant upbringing and these affect our view of life.
Our views differ in religion, fashion, taste of food, choice of association, politics, and many other areas in life.
All these coalesce to form our tone, manner and approach to a conversation.
What is a conversation?
A conversation is an expression and exchange of individual ideas through talking with other people. It is a conversation between two or more people either through words, action, or gestures.
It can be violent, calm, mature, and understanding, but a positive conversation is one with genuine and clear opinions.
In a conversation, listening is quintessential!
When you listen to someone with an intent to argue rather than understand, you disrupt the major idea of a conversation.
Remember, the main focus of a conversation is to pass information between two different people.
People have different views of the world, what they say in a conversation can help you understand their view about life.
Have you ever had a conversation where someone said “I was misunderstood”
That’s because you did not comprehend their point of view.
Different forms of conversation
Talking is not the only form of conversation, other forms of conversation includes;
Ever heard this popular saying “silence is the best answer to a fool”
The conversational tool of silence is an underrated and highly effective approach.
When you stay silent during a conversation you leave the other party confused.
They cannot understand why you are giving no response to their banter.
These five words “action speaks louder than words” is a popular statement.
Your words can be deceiving and insincere. However, those little actions you engage in might be the truth.
Just like words are deceiving, actions can be misleading.
The only difference is, you can easily lie however an upset individual can react in an unpredictable manner.
Physically challenged individuals who cannot speak need to communicate too.
Their conversations are usually in the form of signs and gestures.
If you have an understanding of sign language, you can have a conversation with them.
On the other hand, you can hire an interpreter.
This is the major form of conversation, it is a dialogue between two or more people.
Here, people share their opinions, thoughts and point of view about a particular concept.
Why are conversations important?
Without conversations, it will be impossible to communicate with each other.
It is our major means of passing messages from one person to another.
Through conversations, we can teach, learn, study,defend ourselves, apologize for our wrongs and express our love.
Now the big question is how do we live in peace with others when our view is different.
4 ways to live in peace despite the diversity in our conversations
Learning to understand people fosters peaceful coexistence.
It’s best to learn how to understand people’s viewpoint regardless of the situation.
Don’t always make demands for people to understand you, show them the same understanding from your end.
When you make an effort to listen to other people in order to understand them, they will likely do the same.
2. Learn to let go
You do not live in a vacuum and for this reason, people will always do something to upset you.
Most times you can tolerate some things but other times you have to argue(have a conversation).
Misunderstanding occurs when there is a clash in different points of view.
It is important to know that people will hurt you, get you angry, or engage in activities that may seem unforgivable.
However, it is wise to let go for the sake of your peace of mind, sanity, and your health.
To live in peace with people, you must be willing to let go of some hurtful things that people do or say.
3. If you want people to listen to you, listen to them
Most times we listen to people to counter them or prove a point, that’s not the right thing to do.
To live in peace with people we must listen to understand people, ask yourself questions like;
- What point are they coming from?
- How would I react if it happened to me?
- Can I be a little bit calm?
When we listen to people with the aim of understanding them, we will notice certain things that will aid us while making a decision.
4. A first impression may be the wrong impression
We should try to normalize the fact that sometimes a first impression might be a wrong impression.
Ever had a bad day? What if someone summarised your life because of the little incident.
Have you thought for a second, you’ll realise that you are misjudging an individual based on the first impression you had?
Sometimes, it is wise to give people a second chance to prove themselves.
5. Be willing to learn
If you are not teachable, you will have issues relating with people.
Our environment and social life can affect our views on a particular situation.
To live in peace, you must learn to listen carefully to others
A Person’s reaction to an event or during a conversation is strongly influenced by how they view life.
To live in peace with others we must learn to truly listen in a conversation.
Watch their actions, tone, body language, and listen to what they say.
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