Do you know that pride can kill?
It is not a secret that pride can kill, it has led to the destruction of lives, relationships, and friendships.
The level of pride certain people demonstrate is quite shocking. Honestly, I do not even think it is necessary to exhibit ego or pride.
There is a very thin line between pride and self-worth or self-esteem. In our society today, most people have crossed this line and they don’t even realize it.
Pride has ruined so many lives, friendships, relationships, and even business partnerships.
There is a very big difference between being proud of your achievements and exhibiting pride.
There is a lot of misunderstanding about the concept of pride and a sense or feeling of achievement or acknowledgment about one’s good deeds.
This article will focus on the following;
- What is pride
- Attributes of pride
- How does pride affect our relationship?
- The difference between self-worth and pride
- Why you should give up on pride
What is pride
If this was a survey and this question “what is pride” was asked. I’m very sure that a lot of people will have different answers based on their understanding of what pride is.
For this reason, I will give you six different definitions of pride.
The two first definitions originate from the English dictionary.
The quality or state of being proud; an unreasonable overestimation of one’s own superiority in talents, beauty, wealth, rank, etc., which manifests itself in lofty airs, distance, reserve, and often contempt of others.
A sense of one’s own worth, and abhorrence of what is beneath or unworthy of one; lofty self-respect; noble self-esteem; elevation of character; dignified bearing; proud delight; — in a good sense.
Pride is a feeling of acceptance or recognition of one’s capabilities and achievements.
Pride is a way of life. When an individual lives like the whole world is answerable to their commands and order this is definitely pride.
A mental issue is characterized by the inability to apologize or feel guilty for wrongs done to others.
A mindset that the whole world revolves around you. It could be a result of societal or environmental factors.
These six definitions are the bedrock of Pride. From the definition above, we can see that Pride can be positive or negative.
It strongly depends on the usage, the approach, or the user’s interpretation.
There’s a very popular saying
“I’m responsible for what I say but not how your respond to it”
7 attributes of Pride
Let’s quickly discuss 7 characteristics of Pride that make it bad or make us regard it as a killer.
Pride is selfish and self-centered
The deadliest and extremely negative character of Pride is selfishness. A proud person has no consideration for other people’s feelings.
They do what they like, how they like it, and crush anyone that dares to cross their part.
For instance, in a relationship where the man is proud. If his wife wrongs him, he does everything within his power to seek revenge.
A proud man will go to extreme lengths to hurt his wife without considering how it might affect the kids.
It does not forgive
Have you ever hurt the feelings of a proud person? I’m sure it took you are still trying to obtain their forgiveness.
A proud person doesn’t understand why something as simple as “saying sorry” should make up for the pain you caused them.
If you have a proud friend, partner, or relative that you love. I honestly think that you should try to work really hard to avoid hurting them.
If you do, then I’m really sorry but that relationship might be very close to a sad end.
It hurts really badly
Don’t get confused! Pride doesn’t hurt the individual that exhibits it rather it hurts the people around.
Have you ever worked with a proud team leader at work or in church?
What was the experience like?
Most times, they delegate their responsibilities to you and sit back to receive praise for your hard work.
They believe that you owe them adoration or praises for working closely with them.
Don’t even dare to make a mistake around a proud person.
The harsh words they will use on you can cripple your productivity or creativity for a week.
You also shouldn’t expect a proud person to give you any compliment. They will not!
They hurt anyone around them especially those who are extremely good at what they do.
Hinders further room for growth
A proud person is self-engrossed and has no time to look down to notice errors or mistakes.
For instance, someone that always brags about a white shirt may become so focused on the ideology rather than what is.
They pay more attention to what they believe is true rather than what every other person believes or accepts.
It destroys relationships
Nothing kills relationships as much as egocentric behavior.
It takes understanding, love, and respect for each other to build a positive relationship.
No man or woman wants to be in a relationship with someone that cannot tolerate, care or forgive.
Pride will only lead to the ruin of your relationships.
Takes but doesn’t give
A prideful person always wants to receive praise, never share accolades with teammates especially when they contributed nothing.
In a relationship, a prideful person feels like they should always be the receiver.
They want the attention, care, gifts, and every other thing that you can offer. However, they offer nothing in return.
Always leads to a fall
The Bible says the Lord resists the proudful. This is not a threat it is reality.
Pride can kill, it is a gradual killer. It makes you focus on the wrong things and eventually leads to a gradual and drastic fall.
How does pride affect our relationship?
Pride will always destroy effective communication.
A proud person will not be willing to have mature or civilized communication with anybody.
Whenever a point is raised that seems contrary to the image, they have of themselves it resorts to quarreling and arguments.
The difference between self-worth and pride
Self-worth is a healthy belief in one’s capabilities and achievements. Pride is a feeling that the world revolves around you or a belief that you are better than everyone one else.
An individual with healthy self-worth knows how to set boundaries and respect the boundaries of others.
A relationship with someone that knows their worth will be healthy and respectful.
However, a prideful person sets high boundaries but disrespects your boundaries with remorse.
Why you should give up on pride
Pride will only hurt everyone around it and eventually hurt you.
It can lead to the destruction of relationships and friendships.
All the characteristics listed about pride are enough reason to make anyone quit.
There are no benefits associated with pride, made the decision to give up on it.
“Pride can kill” doesn’t really apply literally.
However, it can lead to the death of relationships and friendships.
Pride can cause you to lose your job or miss out on life-changing opportunities.
Choose to stay humble, but never let anyone trample on your worth.