52 signs to show that you are in the wrong relationship
Are there right and wrong relationships? Of course, they are.
In some relationships, you find peace, comfort, and possibly a home. Whereas other relationships may be filled with chaos, trouble, quarreling, comparison, envy, and jealousy.
The funny thing about a negative toxic relationship is that most times you actually noticed the signs.
But you were too “in love” to read the writing on the wall and some people will decide to change the person in future.
It’s never possible to change an adult who has been living with that behavior since their childhood. Excepts the person decides to change.
For instance, if you were dating a guy and he attempts to beat you. Or he hits you and immediately apologizes.
This could be a sign that he is a potential woman beater. If he can hit you when you are not married to him.
What makes you think he won’t hit you when you are.
Toxic relationships always show little signs. However, we are too engrossed in the love to actually notice.
A lady that drinks way too much alcohol and blames it on work pressure.
What happens when family pressure set in? Will she become an alcoholic?
If you are already in a bad relationship, I feel your pain. At some point, we all have made certain mistakes that are detrimental to us mentally and physically.
I encourage you to find the strength to leave that relationship.
However, if you are already married then. I advise that you see a therapist and try to fight for your marriage.
If you are in an abusive relationship, I advise you to speak up and seek help. There are so many centers that are set up to help women fight against domestic violence.
Find help and get the help that you need.
How do you know you are in a wrong relationship?
Before we dive into the different signs to show that you are in a bad relationship. Let’s briefly talk about the ways you can actually identify one.
I know there is a popular saying that says actions speak better than words. Of course, this statement is true however words are also very disastrous.
When you are in a wrong relationship, there are certain things your partner says that hurt, depresses, and destabilize you.
The fact that actions hurt don’t mean words have a lesser impact. Words keep ringing over again in our heads and it could become a subconscious mantra.
Certain actions can point towards a wrong relationship. There are some things that your partner does that should ignite your thinking cap and make you ask the following questions.
“Does he/she really love me?
If he loves me, will he do this?
Is this what loving her will be like?
You need to ask yourself certain hard questions and give truthful answers. You can lie to people but can you really lie to yourself forever?
Signs to show that you are in a wrong relationship
Inability to apologize
A partner that never apologizes when he/she is wrong is potentially toxic.
Don’t stay in a relationship where “sorry” is a hard word to come by. Some partners apologize in anger while looking for ways to get back at you.
Use of victim card regularly
Have you ever had a friend, sibling, or parent that is talented in the act of playing the victim card?
No matter how wrong they are, they turn the situation around to feel like the victim.
This is a very toxic relationship; it is wrong to stick with someone like this.
It will only lead to mental and emotional exhaustion.
In this kind of relationship, children also suffer.
A partner that offers no support to you is really of no use. No mental, financial, spiritual, and intellectual support.
If you come to him/her with a problem, they offer no useful solution. This isn’t a good quality of a great partner.
Some will not support your dreams. But they will try very hard to bring you down and ensure that you do not succeed.
The use of harsh words constantly
Do not tolerate the use of harsh words on yourself.
Don’t even tolerate it from yourself as it is deteriorating for your health. Keep empowering yourself, see how good and precious you are, you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Never compliment you
Compliments show that they notice you, they see your little efforts.
It doesn’t really have to be your hair, clothes, or make-up. It can be your skills in handling issues at work or your cooking skills.
Constantly complains about you to third parties
If there is a problem that arises, it is the duty of both parties to discuss and settle the issue.
However, if your partner constantly takes your issues to discuss with a third party.
This could be a sign that the relationship is wrong.
Third-party in a relationship is crowd, learn to settle issues among yourselves.
Some partners will go out and say harsh things behind their spouse and came back home to pretend.
An autocratic partner does not listen to what you have to say. They make rules and expect you to adhere strictly to them.
Except you want a military rule as a relationship you need to quit as soon as possible.
Zero sense of humor
An always serious person is definitely a big no for me. I honestly don’t know about you but if I constantly have to explain my jokes to you.
The relationship will definitely not work, I will quit as long as I can no longer take it.
Lack of understanding
If your partner does not understand you enough to know what you can or cannot do. I think you need to put up the stop sign.
This is a very wrong relationship.
Occasional anger is understandable, everybody gets angry sometimes. However, if your partner gets angry every single day for little mistakes.
It is time to say “boy bye or girl bye”
Pack up and live because this might eventually lead to an abusive relationship.
A partner that doesn’t know how to forgive is a big no. I make lot of mistakes; we all do.
I can’t cope with someone that needs a year to forgive one mistake.
Just quit! There are no more words to say other than this is a very wrong relationship.
Hates your friends and family
A partner that always complains about your friends and family. He/she never wants to see them around you.
This is quite funny; they were always around before the partner.
So, who’s leaving will be more convenient? It is your choice to make.
Jealous of your success
This is not a good blend in a relationship. Your partner should be your number 1 fan, not a rival.
If you are both competitors they should celebrate your win not envy your successes. This is the main problem many marriages are facing now.
Disapprove of all your ideas
Every human is entitled to their ideas, beliefs, and opinions. No matter how stupid an opinion may sound there may be a uniqueness to it.
A partner that always disapproves of all your ideas should get an animal for a partner. Not thinking or speaking human.
Never seeks your opinion
A partner that never seeks your opinions on matters. Including issues that concern you is not an ideal award-winning partner.
Some partners always discuss issues with their families but conceal them from their partners.
Compares you with other people
When our parents or friends compare us with others, we get upset.
How much more a partner derives joy in constantly engaging in this act. Just remember that people’s pace and time are not the same, one person will not be good at everything.
Everybody has an area of specializations.
Lack a sense of appreciation
An unappreciative partner should not be a matter of discussion. It is definitely a wrong relationship.
They always think it’s their right, why should they appreciate you in what you supposed to do. When you lack a sense of appreciation, you have already killed the motivating spirit in the other person.
Openly criticize and reprimand you
We make mistakes and we need people that can be truthful to us about our flaws. However, it does have to be a public embarrassment.
A partner that constantly does this, does not do it from a place of love.
Always bring up past mistakes
Not everyone is proud of their past mistakes. Hence, they hate talking about it.
A partner that always brings up your past mistake is not a very great choice. You are driving your partner out because you are killing the sense trust in that relationship.
Gives you no personal space
If there is no room for personal space in a relationship. I’m booking the next available flight out of that relationship.
How about you?
You do all the work of building the relationship
If you are always buying gifts, celebrating birthdays, planning trips or dates.
At some point, it might get exhausting, frustrating, and annoying.
23.Avoid them in a crisis
Can your partner handle crises or do they escalate the situation? Do you run to someone else when a serious matter arises?
Answer the question yourself.
If you are always fighting, you do not need a prophet to tell you that the relationship might not work.
A serious default in communication might be the cause of the fights.
You both have an opposite lifestyle
An extreme extrovert and an introvert are not a nice blend for me. What do you think?
Work is their top priority
Work is great, hard work is admirable. However, if your partner prioritizes work over you constantly. You might have issues in the nearest future.
Don’t offer to help you
No sensible man/lady will watch you work so hard without offering any form of assistance.
If your partner doesn’t offer to help or doesn’t assist even when you ask. I think it time to consider leaving.
Have no other hobbies
If your partner has no hobbies other than texting or calling you round the clock.
Take my advice and run this might be a potentially obsessive relationship.
It is hard to have fun with them
A relationship without fun will be boring, routines, and totally uninteresting.
If you like this kind of relationship then you are free to hang around. I personally can’t watch you read magazines when I want to play a game or do something fun.
Insecure around them
Your relationship should provide the highest form of security to you.
You should be able to run into it when the world feels cruel or tiring.
However, if it is responsible for the insecurity you face, you definitely need to run away from it.
Exhausting to be around
Some people are physical and mentally exhausting to be around.
Personally, I can deal with a physically exhausting person. However, a mentally exhausting person can be very detrimental to my emotional and mental health.
Always need to seek permission
While growing up you had to ask for permission from your parents. Are you back at your parents’ house?
Is this a lover or a parent, let’s set the fact straight?
Always careful around them
Do you constantly feel like you are walking on eggshells around them? This is a wrong relationship that should be relaxing and supportive.
It shouldn’t be a rerun of law and order.
Impractical hurtful jokes
When people make jokes about you that are hurtful. No matter how hard you laugh it is obviously a fake laugh you are using to cover the pain.
How much more when it is done by someone who claims to love you?
Is your partner extremely aggressive either passively or actively?
This is a clear sign of an abusive partner you should get tidy of this relationship.
Refuse to meet friends and family
Why don’t they want to meet your friends and family?
These are the most important people in your life. And if they take you seriously, they will want to meet them.
Feel fake around them
Do you feel the need to change or fake your character when you are with a partner?
You should be replaced and free with a partner bot uptight and calculated. You should be at home not in court.
Always feel lonely around them
When you are together supposedly trying to connect but you still feel lonely.
You don’t need a soothsayer to tell you that something is definitely wrong.
Most people in a marriage are suffering from that today. What could be the problem? Does it mean that you guys are not compatible or something went wrong somewhere?
No definition of the relationship
If you have been in a relationship with someone for more than 4 years. And they are clearly saying nothing about the future.
You need to have “the discussion”
The dreaded discussion where you ask the question “what are we”?
Can’t share your true feelings
Who do you tell your true feelings to? Are you scared that he/she might get upset if you explain your feelings to them?
If your answer is yes then I can boldly state that you are in a wrong relationship.
When your partner never agrees with what you say but always wants you to accept theirs. This is clearly a very imbalanced relationship.
A couple must learn to agree,
It is a relationship, not a debate competition.
No noticeable personal growth
Have you noticed any personal growth after few years of a relationship?
No improvement in your life, no growth in your business. Then you might be in a wrong relationship.
Can’t picture them in your future
If you can’t picture your future with your partner then why should you continue with the relationship?
Expect you are not really planning on a future life with them.
Do you have a partner that overthinks everything?
And probably makes everything seem negative, then you are probably in a wrong relationship.
For instance, if you want to hang out with your friends. But he starts thinking it’s because you don’t enjoy his company anymore.
This could be a clear indication of a wrong relationship.
Attraction suddenly fades
When attraction fades for your partner what else is left in the relationship. This might mean that the relationship is on the verge of falling apart.
A relationship without attraction will become really boring and uneventful.
Always making unrealistic promises
If your partner always makes promises that he never keeps. Take a bow and leave that relationship.
Don’t stick to a partner that keeps making promises that he/she will never redeem. If they make a mistake that’s understandable. However, it shouldn’t be a regular lifestyle.
Different core values
Your core values should align with your partner. If it doesn’t, you are bound to have issues.
Core values are the standards or principles with which you live your life. They set the foundation for your life stability.
A relationship with opposite core values will result in misunderstanding and lots of opposition.
Lack of happiness
A relationship should offer you happiness and comfort. If it doesn’t, you do not need someone to tell you that you are in a wrong relationship.
Happiness is a priority and if your spouse does not offer you happiness. Then you need to leave that relationship.
You feel interested in another person
Do you suddenly feel interested in another person? What happened to the love of your life that you were crazy about?
If you are in a relationship with someone but you start feeling an attraction for someone else. Then you may be in a wrong relationship.
If you cannot rely or depend on your partner in a difficult or tough time. This is a clear indication that the relationship is wrong.
A relationship should offer help, comfort, and support.
- Always need to explain yourself
Are you always explaining yourself to your partner? Simply because you don’t want him/her to get angry or upset.
There is nothing wrong with clarifying your partner sometimes. But when it becomes habitual then you are obviously not in the right relationship.
If you are asking this question
If you are probably asking this question “I’m I in a wrong relationship. Then there is a very high possibility that the relationship isn’t right for you.
For you to think about this, it shows that to an extent you already know. That the relationship isn’t right for you.
A relationship should be a home of love, peace, freedom, and forgiveness.
Not a house of chaos, pretense, and total unforgiveness. If you experience more than 5 of the above signs.
Then it is very clear that you are in a wrong and toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are negative to your mental, emotional and physical health.
I strongly advise that you run away from that relationship before it gets to marriage.